I am currently reading a book that I will share my thoughts about in a future article. It is a book about success in life. This is the second book on this topic that I have ever read, and it contains concepts some of which I have – for some reason – mastered and successfuly applied myself in my life. One of them involves sensitivity issues. In this article, I am presenting a concept that I have been following for more than 5 years. With this presentation I am not aimed at changing anyone’s way of thinking about the world around them.
People are often very sensitive to insults, slurs, mockeries, as well as to negative assessments or to some jokes. And for a relatively good reason – their dignity is questioned, they feel disrespected, therefore they not only seek to send the message that they are valued members of society: they also deem their reaction a question of self-respect.
Jokes are a little greyer zone, for every individual has different threshold but that threshold is oftentimes – in today’s technological world – regulated by the mainstream media (MSM), that is, how much the MSM would talk about the specific joke and in what way the MSM would twist it, if at all. As a result of negative comments and jokes, we would witness penalties, fines, warnings, public apoligies, ruined careers and dismissals, among other negative circumstances.
Two good – though not perfect – examples of today’s world are Mitt Romney’s comment on the level of preparedness of the British authorities for the London 2012 Olympic Games and Voula Papachristou’s tasteless tweet. As a result of that, the most likely Republican presidential hopeful and the Greek athlete are both trying to neutralize negative reactions with double talk. Meanwhile, Voula Papachristou’s tweet cost her her participation at the London Summer Olympic Games.
If society uses this concept – that it is all about what it wants and not what it does not want – none of this tasteless and insignificant talk would be paid attention to, and neither Mitt Romney, nor probably Voula Papachristou would do what they did.
Neither the British people – especially the London natives – nor the African people wanted to hear Mitt Romney’s comment or read Voula Papachristou tweet because they didn’t want to respectively be unprepared and be referred to as West Nile mosquitoes’ meal. Both are negative thoughts, and as soon as they dominate a society’s minds, its members would feel insulted, harrassed and humiliated, among other negative feelings which would lead to negative reaction of a certain type. That negative reaction would not address the issues mentioned at the very beginning of the article, but in fact it will contribute to their persistence. Thoughts become things, and therefore negative thoughts would lead to negative things as much as positive thoughts would lead to positive things.
Apply this concept at work. According to it, if the thought of being the worst employee dominates your mind, you are more likely to be the worst employee there. At the opposite end, if the thought of being the best employee dominates your mind, you are more likely to be the best employee at work.
You might want to try it and see how you would change – in a positive or a negative direction. This does not happen overnight, just like Rome had not been built overnight. This concept should be applied for at least 3-4 months – as its advocates mentioned in the book suggested – in order to realize its effect on your personality. Good luck!